Choose to be happy: Speak self affirmations, read daily encouraging devotionals, watch television or listen to things that make you laugh. Actively FORCE happiness into your atmosphere! Make a conscience decision that all of your actions will be those that support your happiness.
One tip that I find useful is to decide not to play any slow music. It’s proven that certain types music can alter your mood. Unless you have a “getting over it” play list, lay off the “I hate him/her, miss you so much, and the “why am I so lonely” types of songs. This music genre is only a reminder of the person missing from your life, how they hurt you, and possibly puts you deeper into the hole of loneliness and other negative emotions that are a setback to your road to happiness. So, listen to positive music. Music that encourages you to be happy. Anything that brings about any negative emotions associated with the break up: GET RID OF IT!
Proverbs 18:21-The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Keep Positively busy: Make sure you surround yourself with positive energies. Create new hobbies, spend time with friends and maybe even workout. Working out is a great mood enhancer.
Praying, or keeping a journal will help you work out how you’re feeling. This is a great tool that can also illustrate how much you’ve grown, or show what areas that need more improvement.
I’ve noticed that the worst thing to be is alone when getting over a break up. But, when you are alone, making sure you are not alone with thoughts is key. It’s also important to avoid negative fillers that only drag you lower. Drinking, smoking, over eating, sleeping, or anything that is used to mask, distract, or numb the pain will never help! I guarantee it’s only a THING that is delaying the healing process.
2 Thessalonians 3:11-We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies.
Accept what Shouldn’t/Couldn’t/Will Never be :This may be the hardest step, but if you are to the point where you realize the relationship was toxic, almost all these apply. Unless your ex changes and recognizes your worth, “KIM” Keep It Moving. Understand you should only be with someone who motivates you to be better. Anyone who makes you feel less than does not deserve space in your heart. Move forward and accept that he or she was just a lesson to help you with your future relationships. The longer we hold on to the what if’s, maybe’s, and the why’s, the longer it will before we begin to heal. A lot of times we are finding ourselves in relationships where we have settled. We know we can do better, we know we WANT better, but instead we accept the RIGHT NOW, ALMOST GOOD ENOUGH, & NOT QUITE. We can not get to the place God wants us in until we decide to love ourselves. That means accepting the fact that some people are not meant to be a part of our lives.
Psalm 147:3- He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.